Amy Louise Irving

A Bit Of Everything Blogger

Thursday, 19 September 2019

19/09/2019

Okay this may or may not be a big deal to someone but to me it’s everything. I don’t recognise the person I was 6 months ago. I was struggling so much with the grief that it consumed me to the point that I felt like I had to drink every evening to be able to feel like my happy self and who i was a year prior to it happening. I have come so so so far and I’m so proud of it I just want to shout out on top of the roof tops just how proud of myself I am. I never in a million years thought I would be where I am today.
I was like so consumed in how i was feeling I just didn’t know if I could feel any other emotions. I didn’t know if I could wake up one day and just accept that it’s happened. I didn’t know if one day I would be one step closer to being able to do what I want to do with my life. I knew that I didn’t want to sit on my bed everyday and consume my thoughts, not speak to anyone, and not do anything, I didn’t want my drinking to spiral out of control because that’s certainly where it was heading. I wouldn’t want to eat, I wouldn’t want to drink, I was losing weight and my family and friends would notice this.
I just knew that I wanted to keep it under control and find other ways of coping with what was going on inside my head I mean I didn’t know how to explain it to someone who didn’t understand how hard it is but I knew that I had to speak to someone about it. Talking about stuff that is happening in your life is nothing to be ashamed of, even speaking to people about it who don’t even understand what you’re going through because they haven’t gone through it themselves.
It’s okay to be sad and it’s okay to not be okay. I have found that the more I spoken about it the more I’ve realised people are there for you and they will listen to you when you need it the most. Just don’t keep it all inside because that is when it consumes you the most.
I was on edge, close to suicide (I mean that’s incredibly difficult for me to open up about because no one really knows about that). I relapsed because I felt like I had to get a way out of the way I was feeling, I had to make it stop. Somehow. I didn’t know how. And those thoughts and those feelings whatever the reason you feel that way, it’s never stupid, it’s never a stupid reason to feel sad or upset, sometimes life just gets too much and you want to disappear. Make it all go away. Make it all stop. Go back to a time where life was simpler. It will never be simpler but it does get easier.
If you told me 6 months ago that I would be going back into college, back onto public transport (even though I was for a while before I went back to college) 3 times a week to go back into a classroom of people, interacting with people and being socialble you would be told that you’re a nutter because I thought that was the last thing I wanted to do. All I wanted to do was cry and cry and cry and cry and not speak to anyone or anything. I am very proud of how far I’ve come in the last 6 months (real time) I may struggle from time to time but I know I’ve got an incredibly good set of friends and amazing family that will always help with the hard times when I’m struggling more than other days when I’m not.
You are never alone with the things you’re going through. There’s always people and networks that you can speak too. Crisis lines and GPs can help you too. You NEVER have to go through anything alone and no matter what there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. I have gone through one of the hardest things anyone ever has to go through. I’m flourishing and I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long time. I’m getting my old self back and I’ve never been prouder of myself in a single time of my life even when I passed maths GCSE after the 7 time of failing it. I promise you there’s always a silver lining out of every horrible situation, there’s always a way out, just believe in yourself and you’ll get there. ❤️
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What Knowledge And Skills Do Sales People Need?



Product knowledge Sales staff must know enough about a product and how it works to match the customer with the appropriate product. Sales staff should know the following:

• Stock availability – what is normally available and when out-of-stock items will become available
• Price information – the prices of the products and how these compare with other available products
• Store information – location of products in the shop and the delivery/collection arrangements
• Product care – how to look after the product and what after-sales service is available such as warranties, servicing and repair
• Key information – how to demonstrate how the product works. The main features, uses and what variations in colour, size etc. are available.

Sales motivation
Motivation is the driving force that enables people to achieve their goals. Successful sales staff are highly motivated individuals who are eager to make a sale. They are often seen using inventive techniques such as cross-selling and up-selling to increase sales.
Motivated sales staff are ambitious, hard-working and enthusiastic people who set themselves high targets. They appear to be passionate about the product they are selling, and their desire to succeed motivates them to try hard to match their products to their customer’s needs.

Understanding potential customers
Being able to identify potential customers and understand their requirements is vital to being able to recommend the right product to the customer. This also helps sales staff to communicate with customers appropriately. Some people are naturally more intuitive and have better interpersonal skills, but salespeople who carefully listen and ask the right questions can learn more about the potential customer.

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Monday, 16 September 2019

Travel Bucket List




  • Ride a Gondola in Venice
  • Stand under the Holywood Sign
  • Go up the Eiffel Tower
  • Go to Disneyland
  • See the Northern Lights
  • Throw a coin in the Trevi Fountain
  • See the Leaning Tower of Pisa
  • Go on an Europe Road Trip
  • See Statue of Liberty
  • See Stonehenge
  • Go on an American Road Trip
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Thursday, 12 September 2019

United Kingdom Bucket List



  • London
  • Edinburgh
  • Manchester
  • Brighton
  • Belfast
  • The Cotsworlds
  • Cornwall
  • Leeds
  • Isle Of Wight
  • Weymouth
  • Sheffield
  • Nottingham
  • Southhampton
  • Durham
  • The Lake District
  • Glasgow
  • Oxford
  • Liverpool
  • Cardiff
  • Cambridge
  • Birmingham
  • Bath
  • Chester
  • Bristol
  • York
  • Devon
  • Bournemouth
  • Aberdeen
  • Norwich
  • Leicester
  • The New Forest


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Wednesday, 11 September 2019

Harry Potter Travel Bucket List





  • Alnwick Castle, England
  • The Elephant House, Scotland
  • Leadenhall Market, England
  • 4 Privet Drive, Little Whinging, Surrey
  • Glenfinnan Viaduct, Scotland
  • 'Lacock Abbey, England
  • Durham Castle
  • Black Park, England
  • Czocha Castle, Poland
  • Georgina House Hotel, London
  • Balmoral Hotel, Scotland
  • Warner Bros Studio Tour, London
  • Loch Shiel, Scotland
  • Piccadilly Circus, London
  • The Wizarding World Of Harry Potter
  • Platform 9 3/4 Kings Cross, London
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Monday, 9 September 2019

Harry Potter Bucket List




  • Read all the Harry Potter books
  • Watch all the Harry Potter movies
  • Visit the Wizarding World of Harry Potter
  • Warner Bros Studio Tour London
  • Visit 4 Privet Drive in Surrey
  • Watch Fantastical Beasts 1 & 2
  • See Harry Potter & The Cursed Child
  • Have tea at the Elephant House
  • Go to platform 9 3/4 in Kings cross station
  • Visit Alnwick Castle in Scotland
  • Listen to Stephen Fry's Audiobooks
  • Get sorted into a Hogwarts house on Pottermore
  • Buy a wand
  • See the Jacobite, Scotland
  • Listen to Jim Dale's Audiobooks
  • Visit the Reptile House at london zoo
  • Go to the college of Wizardry in Poland
  • Visit Diagon Alley (Leadenhall Market)
  • Visit the Great Hall in Oxford
  • Attend the Quidditch World Cup
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Thursday, 5 September 2019

30 Ways To Spend Time Alone



1. Have a spa day
2. Go for a walk
3. Paint your nails
4. Organise your room
5. Write a letter to someone you care about
6. Declutter your inbox
7. Sign-up for volunteer work
8. Head to a cafe for a coffee/tea
9. Go to a comedy show
10. Try a new workout class
11. Write in your journal
12. Catch up on your favourite shows
13. Read a book
14. Make a vision board
15. Go to the movies
16. Listen to a podcast
17. Write a to-do list
18. Go shopping
19. Watch a new TV show
20. Research something new
21. Do a random act of kindness
22. Meditate
23. Travel solo
24. Colour in a colouring book
25. Take up a new hobby
26. Write a short story
27. Buy yourself a nice dinner
28. Listen to an album you haven't heard yet
29. Apply a facemask
30. Watch a funny YouTube video
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Wednesday, 4 September 2019

Daylio: APP REVIEW



For those of you who don’t know, Daylio is a daily mood tracking app which lets you record what mood you’re feeling including happy, sad, very sad, excited, etc. You can also customise your mood which is really nice, and you can add in activities which you have done throughout the day, which you can also customize to make your own. The app has its way of tracking your mood and has graphs as well as counting how many times you’ve been feeling happy or sad etc. 

The app can remind you when to record your mood which I’ve set up because I am the MOST forgetful person ever and I would literally forget my head if it wasn’t screwed on and I’m not even exaggerating. My longest streak of happy days has been about 5. Which to be honest isn’t the best but you know, also isn’t the worst. 

Overall I think it’s a really good mood tracking app and although there are others on the app stores which I have tried, this one I have used for months, as well as using it on my old phone too, I had to start again because I didn’t have a backup since I only had the free version but that didn’t bother me because I always track it on paper anyway. 

It’s a really good app for me because I’m obsessed with tracking everything so being able to track your mood in this tiny app is perfect for me, I have got to mention too that this app is actually really small in size so it literally won’t take up any space on your phone which I love! You can also have a PIN lock which isn’t exclusive to the premium version which is nice if you want to be a bit more private about how you’re feeling every day!

You can choose as  many activities as you like and it has loads and loads of different symbols for the different moods if you want to customize it and make it personalized to you and what you do throughout the days.



I really like this app and would love to know what you think of it if you decide you want to download it to try it, let me know in the comments if you’ve tried any other mood tracking apps and which one is your favourites!
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Monday, 2 September 2019

Body Image



Many of us are far from happy about our bodies, we constantly think that all these celebrities with perfect bodies are the ones we have to look up too, of course, this is not always the case.

Of course it’s okay to be you….
You have to love yourself and love your body in order for others to love it too, there’s always going to be someone who doens’t like it but unfortunately that is society for you. If you want to eat all the junk food in the world, then go ahead, it’s okay.

Puberty and when your body changes….
It’s inevitable to feel self-conscious when your body is going through some of the changes that take place in growing up from a young boy or girl to a older and maturer man or women. Especially with girls, you may feel like you need to constantly compare yourself to other girls if they’ve got bigger boobs than you, or more shape to their body. Never feel like you have to compare yourself to other people the same age as you because everyone grows, and develops at different speeds.

The media
With teens and tweens constantly on social media, they’re not far from celebrities showing off their perfect beach bodies, this itself is a good thing and a bad thing, but mainly not really very good for influencing what’s right and wrong, but mind you, just because a women or man has a perfect body, doesn’t mean they’re actually unhealthy.

Healthy self-esteem
If you have a positive body image, chances are you probably except yourself and your body image even if it’s not the “ideal” definition. This shows you that you’re growing up and becoming independent from your parents, though having said that, it can take years to build up some self-confidence, do it at your own speed, and don’t feel pressured or like you HAVE to like your body and body image.
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Thursday, 29 August 2019

How To Work With Brands As A Blogger



I must admit, it's really exiting getting to work with brands, even brands that you've never heard of, but you might be wondering how to work with brands that you do know and of course love, because it can happen if you approach these companies in the right ways.

How to find brands...
A good way to find some brands is to look on the hashtag #bloggerswanted, I have actually used this hashtag before on Twitter for both my businesses, to help me get people interested, it does work.
Another way to look for brands is to look on their contact pages, usually look for emails for example;  pr@insertcompanyhere.com, marketing@companyname.com.

How to go about writing those emails...
Make sure you be unique because brands get hundreds and hundreds of emails everyday, make sure you stand out from the crowd and I recommend making yourself a media kit to help show your statistics and demographics.

What happens if I don't get a reply or get rejected...
It isn't the end of the world if you don't get a reply you've wanted or you get rejected, PR companies get loads of emails daily and don't have the time to respond to everyone. Check the hashtag for smaller brands to work with, you might get a better chance to work with them.


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Monday, 26 August 2019

10 Reasons To Be Grateful




Gratitude and being grateful is something everyone should practice and do, be thankful for everything and everyone in your life and having them be there for you always. It is easy to just live your life and never thank people for always being there when you need them because life gets in the way and you just forget to do it, practice it because you really don't know when it will be the last time you will see and speak to someone, if you end on a positive note then you'll be thankful for that later in life.


  1. hot chocolate
  2. hot showers
  3. clean water
  4. food on the table
  5. a home
  6. family & friends
  7. fuzzy socks
  8. warm fires in the winter
  9. digital camera
  10. life memories
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Thursday, 22 August 2019

How To Get Through A Breakup



I am sure you will agree with me that everyone has had the bare of bad news when it comes to breakups, really no one wants to breakup with someone but sometimes it's the only way to keep yourself happy. Sometimes, when you break up with someone it can be hard, people move on in different ways and it is important to know how to do it. Learning the reasons and why you broke up is important, finding out why can be the most difficult part, sometimes you'll just know straight away and sometimes it'll take a long time to fizzle out.

Acceptance
I think the first obvious stage of a break up is acceptance, accepting that they're not going to be with you anymore, and even not going to talk to you anymore, that can be hard. But once you have accepted that, it is easier to move on. Sometimes it may take a few days, sometimes a few months, but once you completely have it gets easier. The hardest thing is acceptance and excepting that the person isn't coming back, can't or never will in that sense or in the way that they were before, even if you do decide to stay friends, it can be hard to do that because you'll still have the memories in the back of your head, they'll always be there and it's hard to go from a relationship that's always there to not there at all.

Getting rid of the memories(?)
Obviously this is a hard stage too, texts, photos everything that could remind you of the other person could, so if you get rid of those you don't have anything to look at to make you think about the person. It is easy to keep it because you once had good memories with the person and now they're gone, it can be hard to know that it's really over.

Find something that keeps you busy
If you find something that keeps you busy, you're more likely just to forget about it, have a bubble  bath, talk to your friends about it, although this one can be a difficult one because you don't want to feel like you're going over over it when that's not necessary. But you can do, you can talk to whoever you want about your breakups, you shouldn't ever feel bad about talking about it too much.

Moving on
This is the hardest thing to do after a relationship especially if the relationship was a long time, for example two or three years, that's a long time to go to spending every waking hour with them to no time at all. It is hard because you still want the person to be there even though for reasons you've discussed it is not possible. At the very beginning stages of a breakup you might start to think that you can't ever move on and it can't be done, but it can and you will be able to eventually.

Cry, cry out all your emotions
This. Is. Okay. No matter what people tell you, it's okay to cry and cry out all your emotions, as I said in the point about talking to your friends, it's okay to chat about it even if it makes you feel like a burden, even if one day you find yourself thinking about it, then you should talk about it to your friends, even if it's been months afterwards. It's no good keeping all your emotions inside because then you just bottle it and bottle it up and you get to a point where you can't do that anymore because it's too hard.

Watch YouTube, listen to ed sheeran & eat ice cream
This is one of my favourite things to do after a breakup, especially eating ice cream, everyone loves ice cream! Listening to ed sheeran can also help, though actually, it might make you feel a bit sorry for yourself but you know, that's okay too. Ed Sheeran can be relatable in all senses, whether you're listening to songs about breakup or first loves or loving someone, he writes about everything. Watching Youtube can also help because it is nice to know that someone is going through the same thing as you and you can relate to them in the same way, watch videos on how to get over a breakup, knowing that there's people who are giving advice on it and it's okay to watch those sorts of videos.
Breakups for everyone can be hard and there's never going to a time when it's easy, whether you get over the person in a few days or a few months or even a few years, it doesn't matter, just always remember to not bottle up all your emotions because that's not going to do any good for you in the future, or at the present time.

Here are some videos from youtube about breakups you might enjoy;
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Wednesday, 21 August 2019

How To Find Your Place In The Blogging Community



It is very hard to fit in sometimes, much like going to a new school, you have to fit in from the start, this is a lot like blogging.

When I first started blogging, back in January 2016, I really had no idea what I was doing, I didn't know about SEO, or DA, or where to get inspiration of what to write about, I was just completely clueless. The blogging community itself a lovely place, and it's so nice to be a part of it.

Fitting into it is usually finding out what "niche" you want to write about but that's not always the case. You don’t actually have to have a niche to fit into the blogging community. You can write about anything you want to really.

If you're a beauty blogger and you want to write a post about yourself then do it. If you're a food blogger and you want to randomly add in a makeup post then do it. It doesn't really matter what you write about as long as you write about what YOU want to write about. There’s a lot said about the fact that you have to have a niche to fit into this community, I mean you can if you want but you
don’t have too it’s not that necessary.

I mean yes, in the long term of things it helps if you want to work with other bloggers ect, it will help them find out if you fit their brand and if they want to work with you. So, in that sense it does make sense.

I myself, know it’s hard to know what to write about and it is tempting just to find something of a topic and copy and paste it in your own blog (which I have done before), adding links and sourcing information but that’s not the right way to go about it and I found that out the hard way.

Finding blog post ideas can be tricky but there’s usually loads of boards on Pinterest which link to other people’s blog posts which you can use ideas from or at least that’s what I do, maybe changing the titles a bit to make it your own.


Fitting into to somewhere new is hard but eventually you’ll find a way and you won’t need to go back to old habits.
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Monday, 19 August 2019

Things You CAN Control



Although there are a-lot of things in life that you can't control, however, there are things you CAN control. Here is my list;
  1. your beliefs
  2. your attitude
  3. your thoughts
  4. your opinions
  5. your perspective
  6. who your friends are
  7. what books you read
  8. the type of food you eat
  9. how you spend/invest your money
  10. whether or not you judge people
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Thursday, 15 August 2019

The Harry Potter Tag

I love Harry Potter so much, I am actually suuuch a huge fan, so here are a few questions which I have answered for the Harry Potter tag, the original post which I got the questions from had additional questions which I haven't answered here, but I don't know where I have gotten the questions from but I have seen a lot of people do these tags.
1. What house are you in?
Gryfindooor!

2. Would you be a pure blood, half blood or muggle born?
Half blood

3. Favourite book?
I haven't read them ahah

4. Least favourite book?
I haven't read them ahah

5. Favourite film?
Goblet of Fire

6. Least favourite film?
Chamber of Secrets

7. Favourite character?
Hermonie Granger/Ron Weasley

8. Least favourite/most hated character?
Don't have one

9. Favourite teacher at Hogwarts?
Professor Snape

11. Least favorite teacher at Hogwarts?
Professor Snape!

12. Do you have any unpopular opinions about the series? 
Nope, I love it all!
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Wednesday, 14 August 2019

Top 3 Romantic Comedies




Romantic comedies are some of my favourite movies to watch, with the only company I have being a tub of Ben & Jerry’s, sad times, sad times. 

1) Love Actually 
This is first on my list because I bloody love it, it explores all sorts of relationships from grieving over a lost one, a work-relationship type love and all sorts of other types, my favourite rom-com of all time, and for sure I will make sure my future boyfriends watch this with me, even if they don’t like it themselves, it is just a brilliant cute, family film to watch all through the year!

2) Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging
Definitely another one of the classics, I just remember going through that stage at 14 years old, having my first crush and first heartbreak even, this film has lots of funny bits, sad bits, parts where you just wanna bash your head against the wall, especially Robbie two timing! Friendships grow, fall apart and then come together again, it is just a lovely film to watch if you want that nostalgic feeling of feeling young again even though you’re going to be 23 in a few months! 😩

3) The Vow
This film is so beautiful, exploring the topics of memory loss, falling in love and actually falling in love again after the tragic accident, even though I have only seen this film myself once, it deserves a place in my top 5 because I just love the storyline, the accident, she looses all memory of her husband and gets to fall in love with him all over again, just beautiful and magical, although it is one you might need tissues for!


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Thursday, 1 August 2019

Places I Want To Go To In England



One day, I want to be able to travel the whole world, but for now, I will just stick to England...


  • Liverpool
  • Manchester
  • Yorkshire
  • London
  • Brighton
  • Essex
  • Newcastle
  • Poole
  • Cornwall
  • The Cotts Worlds
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Monday, 29 July 2019

Long Distance Relationships....Can They Work?



Now, it is not for me to say because admittedly I know sometimes they do and can work but it is hard for me to believe that since I’ve been in several and they’ve failed.

If you decide but then again even if you don’t decide because sometimes it can’t be helped with the whole distance thing maybe your other half has to go away for work, either way, there’s a few things you have to consider.

Trust
It is hard when you already have some trust issues of your own to be expected to love someone who isn’t close to you, if you’re needy like me you’d find that quite difficult and it’s not surprising that the ldr/ships I was in didn’t last very long, par the one for two and a half years which I was cheated on but that’s another story. You have to be able to fully know you can trust them to stop yourself having doubts and thoughts of them doing the wrong thing.

Communication
Another important factor to look at is communication, you have to be able to communicate with them as much as you can, though not actually too much or they might get sick of you. You have to talk out your problems or anything that’s bothering you. You have to be prepared in the fact that sometimes you won't get to talk to them all day because they're busy at work or whatever, but what is most important is talking about your issues and problems together and solving them together, as a couple.

Jealousy
This is something that I struggled with when I was in a couple of long-distance relationships, jealousy is something you can get over, sure, but when it's happening it's the worst thing ever, you almost feel bad for being jealous because you feel like you can't because it's wrong, why should you feel jealous, if he didn't want you, he wouldn't be with you after all, but jealousy is something that everyone feels, I just feel like it's more  likely to happen if you're actually in a long-distance relationship.

Accepting that it might not actually work out how you want
This is something that is hard to do because if you like someone a lot, you're going to want to be with them for a long time, but sometimes things just don't go how we wish them too, for reasons that sometimes we know and sometimes we don't and sometimes we never will find out, sometimes it's just not meant to be, you have to be mentally prepared for that because it is hard to accept it and it's hard to know that one day they just might not be there anymore to say good morning and goodnight to you everyday.

People getting in the way and sticking their noses in
You might be lucky enough for this not to happen to you but of course, there's always going to be someone sticking their nose in where it isn't wanted and telling you their opinion of your own relationship, let that completely wash over you and don't be bothered by it, the more you show that you're bothered the more they will just carry on and do it because they know that it bothers you.


Long-distance relationships can and do work, don't think that I think they don't because I've known people in the past to make long-distance relationships work and now they're happily living together, I was in a long-distance relationship for over two years and I did have quite a few doubts of it not working and it didn't' work out because of him cheating on me but just because that happened to me it doesn't mean it will to you too. Just have faith in yourself, trust yourself and it will all fall into place naturally, make the time to see each other and you'll be okay, it's a million times easier so now than it's ever been before because of the increase in technology and it just gets better and better.
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Friday, 26 July 2019

It's Okay Not To Be Okay


Sometimes, it's difficult to express your feelings to someone and explain to them why you feel the way you do, it's okay not to be okay. It's okay to cry, you are human after all. It's okay to feel pain, everyone does, it's normal. It's okay to take longer to get over things than someone else might. Too many people put on a fake smile in order to keep people knowing how they are truly hurting. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. It’s okay to admit that you’re hurting, broken or even confused about your current spot in life. It’s okay.

  1. IT’S OKAY TO CRY
There is nothing wrong with crying and letting out a few tears. Who ever said crying is for babies was a liar, and definitely not ever watched The Notebook. There is nothing wrong with crying and letting out a few tears. Who ever said crying is for babies was a liar, and definitely not ever watched The Notebook.


  1. IT’S OKAY TO GET FRUSTRATED.
No one has the answers to everything, and even the smartest of people in the world find themselves frustrated sometimes. It’s ok to not know the answer, solution, or reason for things that have taken place. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong to get frustrated. Sometimes frustration is the breeding ground of change.


  1. IT’S OKAY TO GET STRESSED.
Let’s face it, stress is unavoidable. I’m not saying it’s going to consume your entire life, but stress is one of those things that all of us will eventually encounter in one way or another. When you come into areas of your life that are considered stressful, realize that it’s only going to last as long as you allow it to. Stress is unavoidable, but allowing it to control your life is not. It’s ok to be stressed sometimes, just don’t let stress become who you are.

  1. IT’S OKAY TO NOT UNDERSTAND.
Not everything is going to have an answer, but that’s where the beauty of faith comes in. There are circumstances and events in your life that you aren’t going to understand, but you have to realize that it’s ok to not know all the answers. There is humility in saying “I don’t know.” And frankly, sometimes admitting that you don’t know is the first step in finding peace and comfort in your situation. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s wrong to admit you don’t understand.


All of this is okay, you're human, it's understandable.


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Thursday, 25 July 2019

Top 5 Blogging Apps





Blogging is so fun, and I enjoy it a lot, I love finding new apps that will help me improve my blog, these are some of the apps I use for my blog, there are obviously a lot more, but if you've been reading my blog for a while, you'll know I like to do things in 5's or 10's I don't like lists with numbers between that, anyways this is my top 5 go-to apps.

BUFFER
This is the app to use for scheduling tweets, even though I am not the best at that at the moment, I am improving my skills with that, for sure. It's also really easy to use, even though the free version is limited with not as many features as when you pay, it is definitely worth the investment if you know you'll be busy and won't have time to post your tweets manually.

TWITTER
Although, I do like instagram, the algorithm at the minute just doesn't work for bloggers, you end up seeing all the posts from a few days ago then you seem like a stalker from liking old photos when that's just how the algorithm is at the minute, one of the social medias I do use however, is Twitter, I love the community on here, and it's actually my top referrer for my blog views, it's really easy to boost your views from twitter, there are hundreds of hashtags and @'s you can use in your tweets, and now with twitters extended twitter characters, you can add even more than the times before, to even boost it even more.

BLOGLOVIN
There's not much to say about this app really other than I use it to read people's blog posts, it's the easiest app to use for that, though, I find it's my slowest growing social media out of them all! You can also get emails to your inbox about the blog posts that have been popular during the week, could even give you inspiration.

GOOGLE ANALYTICS
This is just the app to use for your websites statistics, particularly if you're on blogger, as that website can be so inaccurate, you could think you're doing really well when blogger, annoyingly counts all the bots that land themselves on your site, and there's nothing you can do about that. Google analytics can work with wordpress or Blogger, it gives you a breakdown of the page views, sessions, new users or returning users and also a complete demographic breakdown of stats including countries, devices and times you blog is read the most.

WORDPRESS
The most obvious app that I use in this list, WordPress, I am really glad I made that switch back in July, it is the best decision I made, the app for WordPress is so easy to use and you can even check your statistics on there too, it is easy to type out blog posts, add photos and read blog posts from the reader, anything you'd do on the desktop version, Blogger should make their app more user-friendly because I didn't like using it when I was on that platform.

Find the apps:
buffer; web / ios / android
twitter; web / ios / android
bloglovin; web / ios / android
google analytics; web / ios / android

wordpress; web / ios / android
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Wednesday, 24 July 2019

Why Don't Schools Teach It?? SORT IT OUT (part 2)




If you have read my previous post found here you will be aware that this is a two part series sprinting on from what I wrote in part 1 if you know me you'll know I don't like to write long winded articles hence why I've decided to do this one in two parts. This is another 5 topics that I have decided to share my thoughts and opinions on and if they should be taught in schools or not. In my previous post, I discusses topics like mental health, money and politics.

Invisible disabilities, chronic illnesses and conditions (autism, adhd, ocd etc)...
For many of us invisible and chronic conditions and illnesses are hard to tackle while in school, maybe you had a note from the doctors saying that you can't participate in P.E and you would have always got those girls at school who would have given you snide remarks and make comments and say "you don't look sick" and I mean I know I don't LOOK sick but I genuinely am. I think more of this should be taught in schools so this sorts of thing just doesn't happen because I myself do not think it's fair for people to go around telling you that you don't look ill and you look fine and you should in-fact participate in P.E, just as a little side note, I used to have to get doctors letters to get out of doing P.E because I had an INCREDIBLY bad back in my school days (it's better now) but just from looking me you never would have known that, people should be taught not to be so in-sensitive when it comes to invisible illnesses and chronic conditions because you literally never know what someone's going through.

Sex education...
As touched in my part one of this, I wrote about rape and sexual assault, but sex education can be a whole different story, do you remember the days where you got taught how to have safe sex just by putting a condom on a banana, a bit useless if you ask me, we weren't taught about STI's or teenage pregnancy and the actual reality of that, we weren't taught what would happen if you have underage sex and you got pregnant, we weren't taught about any of that, all we were taught is how to put a condom on a banana which in itself wasn't helpful, we always knew that words like "penis" were hilarious and we were immature in that sense. Boys weren't taught about the menstrual cycle, so even now when you mention it to boys the idea of the topic of conversation is disgusting, boys also weren't taught on how to treat women in that respect and sure you can come at me and tell me all boys aren't the same and I know that, but in all matters of respect not everyone wants to see a picture of a shrived mushroom (if you catch my drift) at half past 10 at night when they're trying to sleep, who wants to dream about that, not me! Teenage pregnancy should also be taught and whilst there's nothing wrong with being a young mother, I am not saying that there is, young people are never taught about the actual REALITIES of the whole being pregnant at a young age and even raising a child on their own because the other half won't step up! People like to think they know about safe sex when really they don't or there wouldn't be such a high number of teen-pregnancy about.

Diversity & equality...
In schools, I am sure you know there is also a wide range of different students, all coming from different backgrounds, home-life ect, so why aren't we taught how to treat everyone the same??! Let me give you something as an example, there are two students, one originally from a poorer country, moved here because their family wanted a better quality of life, and another student from a higher-class family, mother and father both in stable jobs. There is a class project and everyone is picked by two other students (the project leaders) and the two students have to be picked. The girl from the poorer country feels left out because no one has picked her until the last minute, when who knows this girl might help to their advantage but she's not picked immediately because of her current situation and as you can already guess, the richer student gets picked first because of her situations. Young people in school should be taught that no matter what you look like, your background, culture, religion ect, that everyone is the same on the inside, everyone should be treated with respect and as equals, because actually you might be surprised at what happens.

LGBT+ community... 
I think the LGBT+ community is amazing, the way everyone pulls together and supports one another but it's said that the hardest time to come out is in school, you may be the only person in your class that does, thus being singled out because of how people might treat you. I knew someone when I was in college (he was still in school) and he was ready to come out but he was scared of how everyone would treat him, people shouldn't feel like they need to hide behind their true feelings and be scared about what people might say and how they might be treated, everyone is the same even if you're gay or lesbian, I am sick of hearing stories of school kids who've committed suicide because they're too scared to come out (they might have already come out to their family), people should be taught that even if you're a boy and you fancy boys THAT'S OKAY, and of course the same for girls. I would never want anyone to feel like they have to behind their own sexuality and how they feel.

So that concludes this two part series, I hope you enjoyed reading it and agree with some of the topics I talked about, although all together there's 9 and I would have preferred there to be 10 but if  I do think of a final one I'll be sure to update this blog post!
Until next time!
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Monday, 22 July 2019

Why Don't Schools Teach It?? SORT IT OUT (Part 1)




Bit of an odd title for a blog post right? I am a school leaver and I left school 6 years ago so why in God's name should I even care about what schools teach these days? Technically it isn't my problem because I don't attend school anymore and technically speaking you are correct but I just wanted to talk about this because I had a conversation with a friend about it and it seemed like an interesting thing to talk about my opinions on, after all who tf is going to need to know the inside of a leaf in real life practices, I haven't and it's been 5 years. Sure, it's been 5 years but never once was taught about some of these things, and young don't know about it. This is also going to be a two part series so look out for the second part coming out later today.

Mental Health...
Okay, so while the majority of the population do have some knowledge of mental health, the signs, symptoms, how to help them ect, as well as helplines that will help you go through those difficult times, no one ever talks about SUICIDE, maybe this is because teachers feel like it'll be too sensitive to talk about, but put that aside and it can SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE, that's another life for another day, that's not being taken away. Even though I've known people who have taken their own life and it's absolutely heartbreaking I'd rather it be taught in school so that young girls and boys can get the help they need so they don't become another statistic. Suicide is so sad and it's so sad that people have to do it to make sure they're not in any pain or don't have the problems they had before, I don't wish anyone to go through that, if you're struggling please, please talk to someone, there's more people out there who will listen than those who won't.

Rape/ & Sexual Assault..
As someone who's known people to go through these topics of conversation, it's so heartbreaking that they don't at least teach self-defence and how to get out of these situations, girls and boys carry this for the rest of their lives, scared to turn the corner in-case of something happening, scared to leave the house for the same reasons, although I know this is a very sensitive topic to talk about and I grant you, no one really wants to talk about it, but in reality, you HAVE to talk about it. The world is so sex-oriented these days and I know from experiences and dating apps you can hardly find a good bloke and you have to go to other places to find them (but that's a different story). I always find that sexual assault is a difficult topic to speak about having not actually gone through it myself but I know what it feels like obviously not completely though. Honestly though, schools should teach you how to recgonize these signs and how to come forward to the police in a safe way.

Crime...
This one is a difficult one to talk about because whilst I have no criminal record (except from stealing your heart hahaha lol) I would like to see more of this in schools, I am sure you have all seen the episodes of EastEnders surrounding the story of the stabbing around the characters Shakil (who sadly died) and Keegan, these scenes especially should be shown in schools because literally anyone could be carrying a knife and you wouldn't even know or expect it, schools especially should show these scenes because it shows that stupidity can end in sad tragedy.   Basic self-defense lessons will be a good idea to in-force in schools at least it'll give people a better understanding on how they can defend themselves thus not becoming another victim of crime and putting young men (and women) behind bars costing the government more and more money each time.

Politics...
Controversial but still very very important to talk about especially about what's going on at the moment and everything like that, though I don't really have much interest in politics as it goes, I still think it should be taught in school, along with the idea that they should lower the voting age, though teaching it in schools would give more young people the chance to do it because right now I think young people don't vote because they don't have enough knowledge on the subject, which you know is understandable, you're not going to go ahead and vote on something you don't even understand, that in itself would be totally pointless, but relatively speaking, they need to teach it, at least some areas of it, because I, myself don't know enough about politics and everything to do with and myself as a young person needs to know about brexit and everything surrounding those negotiations, afterall I am the one growing up in this country and when  we leave the EU will be one of the young persons dealing with all the change that is going on and going to be happening.

Money, finance and housing..
Being 22, I am a almost fully functioning adult but something I have never thought about is finance, I have always been quite clever with my money and making sure I save up every penny that I can (as well as the odd treat for myself) to put towards driving lessons (which btw are MEGA expensive), a house (which probably take me about 100 years to save up for), I was never taught about how to manage my money so I have always had to do it myself, which isn't really an issue, I can do that, it's more that I would have rather be taught it in the school so's I don't have to teach myself & also what on eaRTH is a mortgage, I know at school age you wouldn't even consider getting one but that being said, you still need to learn it for later in life, when you have kids and a family to provide for, you also need to provide a roof over their heads. I don't have a clue what any of that stuff is and really it's so stupid that we're not taught it. Loans should also be talked about because young people will be boring money because they're tight for cash, blissfully unaware that there is interest on top of their loan, thus getting themselves into debt, not being able to pay the money back which defeats the object of getting a loan in the first place to be honest with you.


Okay, that concludes the end of part 1 of this blog post, look out for part two which is coming out later today! 
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Friday, 19 July 2019

11 Habits Of Successful Women



1 - take full responsibility for their life

2 - prioritise & do the most important tasks

3 - create their morning routine

4 - daily meditation or mindfulness practice

5 - make health and exercise a priority

6 - read & learn continuously

7 - discipline and self control

8 - consistency

9 - follow through with what they say (no excuses, only results)

10 - persistence & perseverance

11 - not afraid to fail


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Thursday, 18 July 2019

Travel Bucket List



1. Cyprus
2. Paris
3. Barcelona
4. Amsterdam
5. New York
6. Los Angeles
7. Prague
8. Rome
9. Milan
10. Ayia Napa 



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Wednesday, 17 July 2019

Letter To My Younger Self


One blog post that I've always wanted to share is a open letter to myself but my younger self when I didn’t know some of the stuff I know now. There’s a lot I have learnt since I was 13/14, both in relationships and anything else.

Dear younger self,

You’re probably not going to recognize me, I’m proud of you for getting through everyday since I know what you’re going through. If you’re in a relationship with a boy, don’t worry if It doesn’t work out, it won’t always.

Don’t worry if you don’t know what you want to do in the future, there’s still time to work it out.

Spend the time as much as you can with your friends and family, you'll be surprised how much time
passes and that you'll have wished you spent more time with them.

When you're older, don't worry if you see other people doing more things than you are, everyone grows and develops as people at different speeds and there's nothing wrong with going at it at a different speed.

Don't worry if you don't want to do everything that everyone else is doing, for example, if you don't want to go to university, that is okay, you don't have to, brings me to say that if you don't have the grades to go to university, that is also okay.

Don't worry if you have good & bad days, that's part of life, everyone does. Forgive yourself for making mistakes and learn from them, learn that you don't have to do everything that everyone else is doing & be at the same stage as everyone, as everyone does grow and develop at different speeds, don't worry, it'll all work out in the end.

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Tuesday, 16 July 2019

10 Ways To Detach And Not Lose Your Mind




1. Don't give advice unless asked

2. leave the room if you can't be quiet

3. focus on yourself not what they "should be doing"

4. let them experience their own choices

5. stop focusing on their behaviour

6. remove the kids before it becomes unsafe.

7. don't nag them about their responsibilties

8. only help when asked

9. compliment what they ARE doing well

10. let yourself off the hook, it's not your problem
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Monday, 15 July 2019

Going Back To Old Relationships...It's Not Worth It



Many people including myself have a guilty secret of going back to the ones who once hurt us. Maybe it’s because we miss having that person around to talk to or maybe we just miss what we had with them but it is not a good thing to do in the long run of it.

Going back to the ones who hurt us the most once can be quite toxic if you get back into a relationship with someone who once say cheated on you, aren’t they just going to do it again because you know that saying, once a cheat, always a cheat? People can’t change in that respect even if we think we can change someone to make them not do such behaviour really we can’t.

It’s so hard not to be tempted to go back to a relationship that once made you “happy” but it didn’t really make you happy, you were sat there on your bed, wishing it would stop, wishing he would stop texting that other girl but he didn’t. That isn’t good for your emotional or mental wellbeing. Sure, you can justify it and say that they can change, but really can they? I don’t think so.


It can be hard to accept relationships are really over but I think you’ll be worse off if you tried to stay with the same guy who hurt you.

Don't hold onto someone just because you have history together - the sooner you realise you need to let go - the better.
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15/07/2019





I want to apologise for not writing anything about how I’ve been feeling, afterall it is my blog, I don’t have to write about all of the time. Anyways, to give you a little update, I have finally come to terms with everything that I have needed too over the past few months, I have finally accepted that he’s gone and I have stopped being angry at myself for being sad, grief is not a one trip thing, I could take months and months before I am really truly happy without him, I will never not be happy but I will learn to live without him.


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Saturday, 13 July 2019

13/07/2019 - a quick update

Helloo
So first, I wanted to apologise for not uploading for a few days. I had a few days off Instagram where I deleted the app and logged out of the app and didn’t post anything to anywhere. Anyways I’m back now.
I have been out and about these last few days for the first time in a few months and it felt really nice to be out and about and not feeling sad. I have been to the job centre to finally pick up getting employed after being in a rut for so long. I am doing this for myself, my way and however I chose to do it is up to me. I am learning to be okay with grieving and being sad sometimes, loving myself and everyone around me is what I have learnt to do and I love it.
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My Favourite Disney Movies!



HERE IS A LIST OF MY FAVOURITE DISNEY MOOOOVIES

- The Lion King
- The Little Mermaid
- Beauty & The Beast
- Tangled
- Inside Out
- Moana
- High School Musical
- Alice In Wonderland
- Lilo & Stitch
- Up
- Ratatouille
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Friday, 12 July 2019

15 Lists To Make When You Feel Down



I don’t know about you but I love lists and everything about them, they’re a great way to channel your emotions and set your mind somewhere else and not think about the things making you sad, here are 15 lists you can make when you feel down.

Your Dreams
  • Life goals
  • Countries you would like to visit
  • Things you would love to do
  • Stories you would like to write about

Your Favourite Things
  • Favourite songs
  • Funniest jokes
  • Favorite movies
  • Favourite TV shows
  • Favourite books

Your People
  • People you love
  • People loving you
  • How you met your favourite people
  • People you would like to meet
  • What you would like to do with your friends
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Thursday, 11 July 2019

The Worst Chat Up Lines



Chat up lines are always hard to pin-point in what sort of sense of humor the other person has. I have been sent many over the years and these are some of the bad ones which I’ve been sent. These didn’t end up winning affection off me. Get ready for cringeworthy chat up lines!

1. Was your mother a beaver? 'Cause damn!"

2. "Your breasts remind me of Mount Rushmore — my face should be among them."

3. "It's handy that I have my library card because I'm totally checking you out."

4. "Do you work at Subway? 'Cause you just gave me a foot-long."

5. "Did you just fart? Because you blow me away!"

6. "Do you work at Subway? 'Cause you just gave me a foot-long."

7. "Hey, girl. Are you German? 'Cause I wanna be Ger-man!"

8. "I hear you're looking for a stud. Well, I've got the STD and all I need is you."

9. "Are those space pants? Because your ass is outta control!"

10. "Do you have a Band-Aid? 'Cause I scraped my knee falling for you."

11. "Can you touch my hand? I want to tell my friends I've been touched by an angel."
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5 Ways Self-Love Will Change Your Life


Self-love is important in so many ways, important for the mind, body and soul, here are 5 ways in which love and self-love can change your life! Learn to love yourself, because trust me, everything works out in the end, you’ll see.

Heath
When you truly love yourself, you’re going to take better care of your body, you will eat better and exercise more. Just because you know that your body is working really hard to keep you alive. When you love yourself you prioritize self-care because you want to take care of yourself and make sure your body is healthy. Don’t forget that your mental well-being is just as important as your physical well-being.

Relationships
You may have heard people say to you, “we accept the love we think we deserve”, so when you have more love for yourself you are less likely going to love those who are bad and toxic for you, you start to stop accepting low-quality love from others and tolerating that. When you respect yourself – then others will respect you too.

Confidence
Self-love definitely boots your confidence, because you have learnt to love, embrace and appreciate yourself, you are going to feel more confident about yourself, you won’t feel as insecure about yourself, you will stop caring about what others think about you because you are you, and no one will take that away from you, you are your own unique person, so by accepting yourself and feeling more self-love, it also bounces back on other people and you will have greater, happier experiences with your friends and family because you no longer care about what other people around you think about you.

Friends & Family
You will be able to say “no” to things instead of saying “yes” and being a people pleaser, and saying yes just to make people happy because it is what they accept of you. Having more self-love will also make it easier for you to forgive people, so, instead of holding grudges, you forgive those who have hurt you because you don’t want to be upset by something that has happened in the past, even if the person doesn’t deserve the forgiveness, you forgive just so that you can have that inner-peace of mind, and it is not in the back of your mind.

Happiness
Think about when you love someone, sometimes their happiness is more important than your own and you truly want them to be happy, so if you love yourself you truly want yourself to be happy, so you’d do anything to make sure you are happy. You do what’s best for YOU  because that is the thing that will truly make yourself feel happy.
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Wednesday, 10 July 2019

50 Beauty Blog Post Ideas



1. How To Do Winged Eyeliner
2. Makeup Routine – Everyday
3. Favourite Beauty Brands
4. High End Drugstore Dupes
5. The Perfect Brows
6. Top 5 Drugstore Primers
7. Top 5 Drugstore Foundations
8. Top 5 Drugstore Concealers
9. Top 5 Drugstore Powders
10. Top 5 Drugstore Mascaras
11. Top 5 Drugstore Eyeliners
12. Top 5 Drugstore Eyebrow Products
13. Top 5 Drugstore Eyeshadow Palettes
14. Top 5 Drugstore Bronzers/Blushers
15. Top 5 Drugstore Contour/Highlighters
16. Top 5 Drugstore BB Creams
17. How To Get A Smokey Eye
18. Beauty Hacks
19. Cute Hairstyles
20. Winter Looks (Year)
21. Spring Looks (Year)
22. Summer Looks (Year)
23. Autumn Looks (Year)
24. Prom Makeup
25. Top 5 High End Primers
26. Top 5 High End Foundations
27. Top 5 High End Concealers
28. Top 5 High End Powders
29. Top 5 High End Mascaras
30. Top 5 High End Eyeliners
31. Top 5 High End Eyebrow Products
32. Top 5 High End Eyeshadow Palettes
33. Top 5 High End Bronzers/Blushers
34. Top 5 High End Contour/Highlighters
35. Top 5 High End BB Creams
36. Spring Eyeshadow Palettes
37. Summer Eyeshadow Palettes
38. Autumn/Winter Eyeshadow Palettes
39. Makeup Haul (Collective)
40. £25 Makeup Challenge
41. £75 Makeup Challenge
42. £50 Makeup Challenge  
43. £100 Makeup Challenge
44. MUA Makeup Haul
45. Collection Makeup Haul
46. Rimmel London Makeup Haul
47. Maybelline Makeup Haul
48. Miss Sporty Makeup Haul
49. Top MAC Lipsticks

50. Beauty Summer Essentials
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