Amy Louise Irving

A Bit Of Everything Blogger

Monday, 29 July 2019

Long Distance Relationships....Can They Work?

Now, it is not for me to say because admittedly I know sometimes they do and can work but it is hard for me to believe that since I’ve been in several and they’ve failed.

If you decide but then again even if you don’t decide because sometimes it can’t be helped with the whole distance thing maybe your other half has to go away for work, either way, there’s a few things you have to consider.

It is hard when you already have some trust issues of your own to be expected to love someone who isn’t close to you, if you’re needy like me you’d find that quite difficult and it’s not surprising that the ldr/ships I was in didn’t last very long, par the one for two and a half years which I was cheated on but that’s another story. You have to be able to fully know you can trust them to stop yourself having doubts and thoughts of them doing the wrong thing.

Another important factor to look at is communication, you have to be able to communicate with them as much as you can, though not actually too much or they might get sick of you. You have to talk out your problems or anything that’s bothering you. You have to be prepared in the fact that sometimes you won't get to talk to them all day because they're busy at work or whatever, but what is most important is talking about your issues and problems together and solving them together, as a couple.

This is something that I struggled with when I was in a couple of long-distance relationships, jealousy is something you can get over, sure, but when it's happening it's the worst thing ever, you almost feel bad for being jealous because you feel like you can't because it's wrong, why should you feel jealous, if he didn't want you, he wouldn't be with you after all, but jealousy is something that everyone feels, I just feel like it's more  likely to happen if you're actually in a long-distance relationship.

Accepting that it might not actually work out how you want
This is something that is hard to do because if you like someone a lot, you're going to want to be with them for a long time, but sometimes things just don't go how we wish them too, for reasons that sometimes we know and sometimes we don't and sometimes we never will find out, sometimes it's just not meant to be, you have to be mentally prepared for that because it is hard to accept it and it's hard to know that one day they just might not be there anymore to say good morning and goodnight to you everyday.

People getting in the way and sticking their noses in
You might be lucky enough for this not to happen to you but of course, there's always going to be someone sticking their nose in where it isn't wanted and telling you their opinion of your own relationship, let that completely wash over you and don't be bothered by it, the more you show that you're bothered the more they will just carry on and do it because they know that it bothers you.

Long-distance relationships can and do work, don't think that I think they don't because I've known people in the past to make long-distance relationships work and now they're happily living together, I was in a long-distance relationship for over two years and I did have quite a few doubts of it not working and it didn't' work out because of him cheating on me but just because that happened to me it doesn't mean it will to you too. Just have faith in yourself, trust yourself and it will all fall into place naturally, make the time to see each other and you'll be okay, it's a million times easier so now than it's ever been before because of the increase in technology and it just gets better and better.

Friday, 26 July 2019

It's Okay Not To Be Okay

Sometimes, it's difficult to express your feelings to someone and explain to them why you feel the way you do, it's okay not to be okay. It's okay to cry, you are human after all. It's okay to feel pain, everyone does, it's normal. It's okay to take longer to get over things than someone else might. Too many people put on a fake smile in order to keep people knowing how they are truly hurting. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. It’s okay to admit that you’re hurting, broken or even confused about your current spot in life. It’s okay.

There is nothing wrong with crying and letting out a few tears. Who ever said crying is for babies was a liar, and definitely not ever watched The Notebook. There is nothing wrong with crying and letting out a few tears. Who ever said crying is for babies was a liar, and definitely not ever watched The Notebook.

No one has the answers to everything, and even the smartest of people in the world find themselves frustrated sometimes. It’s ok to not know the answer, solution, or reason for things that have taken place. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong to get frustrated. Sometimes frustration is the breeding ground of change.

Let’s face it, stress is unavoidable. I’m not saying it’s going to consume your entire life, but stress is one of those things that all of us will eventually encounter in one way or another. When you come into areas of your life that are considered stressful, realize that it’s only going to last as long as you allow it to. Stress is unavoidable, but allowing it to control your life is not. It’s ok to be stressed sometimes, just don’t let stress become who you are.

Not everything is going to have an answer, but that’s where the beauty of faith comes in. There are circumstances and events in your life that you aren’t going to understand, but you have to realize that it’s ok to not know all the answers. There is humility in saying “I don’t know.” And frankly, sometimes admitting that you don’t know is the first step in finding peace and comfort in your situation. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s wrong to admit you don’t understand.

All of this is okay, you're human, it's understandable.


Thursday, 25 July 2019

Top 5 Blogging Apps

Blogging is so fun, and I enjoy it a lot, I love finding new apps that will help me improve my blog, these are some of the apps I use for my blog, there are obviously a lot more, but if you've been reading my blog for a while, you'll know I like to do things in 5's or 10's I don't like lists with numbers between that, anyways this is my top 5 go-to apps.

This is the app to use for scheduling tweets, even though I am not the best at that at the moment, I am improving my skills with that, for sure. It's also really easy to use, even though the free version is limited with not as many features as when you pay, it is definitely worth the investment if you know you'll be busy and won't have time to post your tweets manually.

Although, I do like instagram, the algorithm at the minute just doesn't work for bloggers, you end up seeing all the posts from a few days ago then you seem like a stalker from liking old photos when that's just how the algorithm is at the minute, one of the social medias I do use however, is Twitter, I love the community on here, and it's actually my top referrer for my blog views, it's really easy to boost your views from twitter, there are hundreds of hashtags and @'s you can use in your tweets, and now with twitters extended twitter characters, you can add even more than the times before, to even boost it even more.

There's not much to say about this app really other than I use it to read people's blog posts, it's the easiest app to use for that, though, I find it's my slowest growing social media out of them all! You can also get emails to your inbox about the blog posts that have been popular during the week, could even give you inspiration.

This is just the app to use for your websites statistics, particularly if you're on blogger, as that website can be so inaccurate, you could think you're doing really well when blogger, annoyingly counts all the bots that land themselves on your site, and there's nothing you can do about that. Google analytics can work with wordpress or Blogger, it gives you a breakdown of the page views, sessions, new users or returning users and also a complete demographic breakdown of stats including countries, devices and times you blog is read the most.

The most obvious app that I use in this list, WordPress, I am really glad I made that switch back in July, it is the best decision I made, the app for WordPress is so easy to use and you can even check your statistics on there too, it is easy to type out blog posts, add photos and read blog posts from the reader, anything you'd do on the desktop version, Blogger should make their app more user-friendly because I didn't like using it when I was on that platform.

Find the apps:
buffer; web / ios / android
twitter; web / ios / android
bloglovin; web / ios / android
google analytics; web / ios / android

wordpress; web / ios / android

Wednesday, 24 July 2019

Why Don't Schools Teach It?? SORT IT OUT (part 2)

If you have read my previous post found here you will be aware that this is a two part series sprinting on from what I wrote in part 1 if you know me you'll know I don't like to write long winded articles hence why I've decided to do this one in two parts. This is another 5 topics that I have decided to share my thoughts and opinions on and if they should be taught in schools or not. In my previous post, I discusses topics like mental health, money and politics.

Invisible disabilities, chronic illnesses and conditions (autism, adhd, ocd etc)...
For many of us invisible and chronic conditions and illnesses are hard to tackle while in school, maybe you had a note from the doctors saying that you can't participate in P.E and you would have always got those girls at school who would have given you snide remarks and make comments and say "you don't look sick" and I mean I know I don't LOOK sick but I genuinely am. I think more of this should be taught in schools so this sorts of thing just doesn't happen because I myself do not think it's fair for people to go around telling you that you don't look ill and you look fine and you should in-fact participate in P.E, just as a little side note, I used to have to get doctors letters to get out of doing P.E because I had an INCREDIBLY bad back in my school days (it's better now) but just from looking me you never would have known that, people should be taught not to be so in-sensitive when it comes to invisible illnesses and chronic conditions because you literally never know what someone's going through.

Sex education...
As touched in my part one of this, I wrote about rape and sexual assault, but sex education can be a whole different story, do you remember the days where you got taught how to have safe sex just by putting a condom on a banana, a bit useless if you ask me, we weren't taught about STI's or teenage pregnancy and the actual reality of that, we weren't taught what would happen if you have underage sex and you got pregnant, we weren't taught about any of that, all we were taught is how to put a condom on a banana which in itself wasn't helpful, we always knew that words like "penis" were hilarious and we were immature in that sense. Boys weren't taught about the menstrual cycle, so even now when you mention it to boys the idea of the topic of conversation is disgusting, boys also weren't taught on how to treat women in that respect and sure you can come at me and tell me all boys aren't the same and I know that, but in all matters of respect not everyone wants to see a picture of a shrived mushroom (if you catch my drift) at half past 10 at night when they're trying to sleep, who wants to dream about that, not me! Teenage pregnancy should also be taught and whilst there's nothing wrong with being a young mother, I am not saying that there is, young people are never taught about the actual REALITIES of the whole being pregnant at a young age and even raising a child on their own because the other half won't step up! People like to think they know about safe sex when really they don't or there wouldn't be such a high number of teen-pregnancy about.

Diversity & equality...
In schools, I am sure you know there is also a wide range of different students, all coming from different backgrounds, home-life ect, so why aren't we taught how to treat everyone the same??! Let me give you something as an example, there are two students, one originally from a poorer country, moved here because their family wanted a better quality of life, and another student from a higher-class family, mother and father both in stable jobs. There is a class project and everyone is picked by two other students (the project leaders) and the two students have to be picked. The girl from the poorer country feels left out because no one has picked her until the last minute, when who knows this girl might help to their advantage but she's not picked immediately because of her current situation and as you can already guess, the richer student gets picked first because of her situations. Young people in school should be taught that no matter what you look like, your background, culture, religion ect, that everyone is the same on the inside, everyone should be treated with respect and as equals, because actually you might be surprised at what happens.

LGBT+ community... 
I think the LGBT+ community is amazing, the way everyone pulls together and supports one another but it's said that the hardest time to come out is in school, you may be the only person in your class that does, thus being singled out because of how people might treat you. I knew someone when I was in college (he was still in school) and he was ready to come out but he was scared of how everyone would treat him, people shouldn't feel like they need to hide behind their true feelings and be scared about what people might say and how they might be treated, everyone is the same even if you're gay or lesbian, I am sick of hearing stories of school kids who've committed suicide because they're too scared to come out (they might have already come out to their family), people should be taught that even if you're a boy and you fancy boys THAT'S OKAY, and of course the same for girls. I would never want anyone to feel like they have to behind their own sexuality and how they feel.

So that concludes this two part series, I hope you enjoyed reading it and agree with some of the topics I talked about, although all together there's 9 and I would have preferred there to be 10 but if  I do think of a final one I'll be sure to update this blog post!
Until next time!

Monday, 22 July 2019

Why Don't Schools Teach It?? SORT IT OUT (Part 1)

Bit of an odd title for a blog post right? I am a school leaver and I left school 6 years ago so why in God's name should I even care about what schools teach these days? Technically it isn't my problem because I don't attend school anymore and technically speaking you are correct but I just wanted to talk about this because I had a conversation with a friend about it and it seemed like an interesting thing to talk about my opinions on, after all who tf is going to need to know the inside of a leaf in real life practices, I haven't and it's been 5 years. Sure, it's been 5 years but never once was taught about some of these things, and young don't know about it. This is also going to be a two part series so look out for the second part coming out later today.

Mental Health...
Okay, so while the majority of the population do have some knowledge of mental health, the signs, symptoms, how to help them ect, as well as helplines that will help you go through those difficult times, no one ever talks about SUICIDE, maybe this is because teachers feel like it'll be too sensitive to talk about, but put that aside and it can SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE, that's another life for another day, that's not being taken away. Even though I've known people who have taken their own life and it's absolutely heartbreaking I'd rather it be taught in school so that young girls and boys can get the help they need so they don't become another statistic. Suicide is so sad and it's so sad that people have to do it to make sure they're not in any pain or don't have the problems they had before, I don't wish anyone to go through that, if you're struggling please, please talk to someone, there's more people out there who will listen than those who won't.

Rape/ & Sexual Assault..
As someone who's known people to go through these topics of conversation, it's so heartbreaking that they don't at least teach self-defence and how to get out of these situations, girls and boys carry this for the rest of their lives, scared to turn the corner in-case of something happening, scared to leave the house for the same reasons, although I know this is a very sensitive topic to talk about and I grant you, no one really wants to talk about it, but in reality, you HAVE to talk about it. The world is so sex-oriented these days and I know from experiences and dating apps you can hardly find a good bloke and you have to go to other places to find them (but that's a different story). I always find that sexual assault is a difficult topic to speak about having not actually gone through it myself but I know what it feels like obviously not completely though. Honestly though, schools should teach you how to recgonize these signs and how to come forward to the police in a safe way.

This one is a difficult one to talk about because whilst I have no criminal record (except from stealing your heart hahaha lol) I would like to see more of this in schools, I am sure you have all seen the episodes of EastEnders surrounding the story of the stabbing around the characters Shakil (who sadly died) and Keegan, these scenes especially should be shown in schools because literally anyone could be carrying a knife and you wouldn't even know or expect it, schools especially should show these scenes because it shows that stupidity can end in sad tragedy.   Basic self-defense lessons will be a good idea to in-force in schools at least it'll give people a better understanding on how they can defend themselves thus not becoming another victim of crime and putting young men (and women) behind bars costing the government more and more money each time.

Controversial but still very very important to talk about especially about what's going on at the moment and everything like that, though I don't really have much interest in politics as it goes, I still think it should be taught in school, along with the idea that they should lower the voting age, though teaching it in schools would give more young people the chance to do it because right now I think young people don't vote because they don't have enough knowledge on the subject, which you know is understandable, you're not going to go ahead and vote on something you don't even understand, that in itself would be totally pointless, but relatively speaking, they need to teach it, at least some areas of it, because I, myself don't know enough about politics and everything to do with and myself as a young person needs to know about brexit and everything surrounding those negotiations, afterall I am the one growing up in this country and when  we leave the EU will be one of the young persons dealing with all the change that is going on and going to be happening.

Money, finance and housing..
Being 22, I am a almost fully functioning adult but something I have never thought about is finance, I have always been quite clever with my money and making sure I save up every penny that I can (as well as the odd treat for myself) to put towards driving lessons (which btw are MEGA expensive), a house (which probably take me about 100 years to save up for), I was never taught about how to manage my money so I have always had to do it myself, which isn't really an issue, I can do that, it's more that I would have rather be taught it in the school so's I don't have to teach myself & also what on eaRTH is a mortgage, I know at school age you wouldn't even consider getting one but that being said, you still need to learn it for later in life, when you have kids and a family to provide for, you also need to provide a roof over their heads. I don't have a clue what any of that stuff is and really it's so stupid that we're not taught it. Loans should also be talked about because young people will be boring money because they're tight for cash, blissfully unaware that there is interest on top of their loan, thus getting themselves into debt, not being able to pay the money back which defeats the object of getting a loan in the first place to be honest with you.

Okay, that concludes the end of part 1 of this blog post, look out for part two which is coming out later today! 

Friday, 19 July 2019

11 Habits Of Successful Women

1 - take full responsibility for their life

2 - prioritise & do the most important tasks

3 - create their morning routine

4 - daily meditation or mindfulness practice

5 - make health and exercise a priority

6 - read & learn continuously

7 - discipline and self control

8 - consistency

9 - follow through with what they say (no excuses, only results)

10 - persistence & perseverance

11 - not afraid to fail


Thursday, 18 July 2019

Travel Bucket List

1. Cyprus
2. Paris
3. Barcelona
4. Amsterdam
5. New York
6. Los Angeles
7. Prague
8. Rome
9. Milan
10. Ayia Napa 


Wednesday, 17 July 2019

Letter To My Younger Self

One blog post that I've always wanted to share is a open letter to myself but my younger self when I didn’t know some of the stuff I know now. There’s a lot I have learnt since I was 13/14, both in relationships and anything else.

Dear younger self,

You’re probably not going to recognize me, I’m proud of you for getting through everyday since I know what you’re going through. If you’re in a relationship with a boy, don’t worry if It doesn’t work out, it won’t always.

Don’t worry if you don’t know what you want to do in the future, there’s still time to work it out.

Spend the time as much as you can with your friends and family, you'll be surprised how much time
passes and that you'll have wished you spent more time with them.

When you're older, don't worry if you see other people doing more things than you are, everyone grows and develops as people at different speeds and there's nothing wrong with going at it at a different speed.

Don't worry if you don't want to do everything that everyone else is doing, for example, if you don't want to go to university, that is okay, you don't have to, brings me to say that if you don't have the grades to go to university, that is also okay.

Don't worry if you have good & bad days, that's part of life, everyone does. Forgive yourself for making mistakes and learn from them, learn that you don't have to do everything that everyone else is doing & be at the same stage as everyone, as everyone does grow and develop at different speeds, don't worry, it'll all work out in the end.


Tuesday, 16 July 2019

10 Ways To Detach And Not Lose Your Mind

1. Don't give advice unless asked

2. leave the room if you can't be quiet

3. focus on yourself not what they "should be doing"

4. let them experience their own choices

5. stop focusing on their behaviour

6. remove the kids before it becomes unsafe.

7. don't nag them about their responsibilties

8. only help when asked

9. compliment what they ARE doing well

10. let yourself off the hook, it's not your problem

Monday, 15 July 2019

Going Back To Old Relationships...It's Not Worth It

Many people including myself have a guilty secret of going back to the ones who once hurt us. Maybe it’s because we miss having that person around to talk to or maybe we just miss what we had with them but it is not a good thing to do in the long run of it.

Going back to the ones who hurt us the most once can be quite toxic if you get back into a relationship with someone who once say cheated on you, aren’t they just going to do it again because you know that saying, once a cheat, always a cheat? People can’t change in that respect even if we think we can change someone to make them not do such behaviour really we can’t.

It’s so hard not to be tempted to go back to a relationship that once made you “happy” but it didn’t really make you happy, you were sat there on your bed, wishing it would stop, wishing he would stop texting that other girl but he didn’t. That isn’t good for your emotional or mental wellbeing. Sure, you can justify it and say that they can change, but really can they? I don’t think so.

It can be hard to accept relationships are really over but I think you’ll be worse off if you tried to stay with the same guy who hurt you.

Don't hold onto someone just because you have history together - the sooner you realise you need to let go - the better.


I want to apologise for not writing anything about how I’ve been feeling, afterall it is my blog, I don’t have to write about all of the time. Anyways, to give you a little update, I have finally come to terms with everything that I have needed too over the past few months, I have finally accepted that he’s gone and I have stopped being angry at myself for being sad, grief is not a one trip thing, I could take months and months before I am really truly happy without him, I will never not be happy but I will learn to live without him.


Saturday, 13 July 2019

13/07/2019 - a quick update

So first, I wanted to apologise for not uploading for a few days. I had a few days off Instagram where I deleted the app and logged out of the app and didn’t post anything to anywhere. Anyways I’m back now.
I have been out and about these last few days for the first time in a few months and it felt really nice to be out and about and not feeling sad. I have been to the job centre to finally pick up getting employed after being in a rut for so long. I am doing this for myself, my way and however I chose to do it is up to me. I am learning to be okay with grieving and being sad sometimes, loving myself and everyone around me is what I have learnt to do and I love it.

My Favourite Disney Movies!


- The Lion King
- The Little Mermaid
- Beauty & The Beast
- Tangled
- Inside Out
- Moana
- High School Musical
- Alice In Wonderland
- Lilo & Stitch
- Up
- Ratatouille

Friday, 12 July 2019

15 Lists To Make When You Feel Down

I don’t know about you but I love lists and everything about them, they’re a great way to channel your emotions and set your mind somewhere else and not think about the things making you sad, here are 15 lists you can make when you feel down.

Your Dreams
  • Life goals
  • Countries you would like to visit
  • Things you would love to do
  • Stories you would like to write about

Your Favourite Things
  • Favourite songs
  • Funniest jokes
  • Favorite movies
  • Favourite TV shows
  • Favourite books

Your People
  • People you love
  • People loving you
  • How you met your favourite people
  • People you would like to meet
  • What you would like to do with your friends

Thursday, 11 July 2019

The Worst Chat Up Lines

Chat up lines are always hard to pin-point in what sort of sense of humor the other person has. I have been sent many over the years and these are some of the bad ones which I’ve been sent. These didn’t end up winning affection off me. Get ready for cringeworthy chat up lines!

1. Was your mother a beaver? 'Cause damn!"

2. "Your breasts remind me of Mount Rushmore — my face should be among them."

3. "It's handy that I have my library card because I'm totally checking you out."

4. "Do you work at Subway? 'Cause you just gave me a foot-long."

5. "Did you just fart? Because you blow me away!"

6. "Do you work at Subway? 'Cause you just gave me a foot-long."

7. "Hey, girl. Are you German? 'Cause I wanna be Ger-man!"

8. "I hear you're looking for a stud. Well, I've got the STD and all I need is you."

9. "Are those space pants? Because your ass is outta control!"

10. "Do you have a Band-Aid? 'Cause I scraped my knee falling for you."

11. "Can you touch my hand? I want to tell my friends I've been touched by an angel."

5 Ways Self-Love Will Change Your Life

Self-love is important in so many ways, important for the mind, body and soul, here are 5 ways in which love and self-love can change your life! Learn to love yourself, because trust me, everything works out in the end, you’ll see.

When you truly love yourself, you’re going to take better care of your body, you will eat better and exercise more. Just because you know that your body is working really hard to keep you alive. When you love yourself you prioritize self-care because you want to take care of yourself and make sure your body is healthy. Don’t forget that your mental well-being is just as important as your physical well-being.

You may have heard people say to you, “we accept the love we think we deserve”, so when you have more love for yourself you are less likely going to love those who are bad and toxic for you, you start to stop accepting low-quality love from others and tolerating that. When you respect yourself – then others will respect you too.

Self-love definitely boots your confidence, because you have learnt to love, embrace and appreciate yourself, you are going to feel more confident about yourself, you won’t feel as insecure about yourself, you will stop caring about what others think about you because you are you, and no one will take that away from you, you are your own unique person, so by accepting yourself and feeling more self-love, it also bounces back on other people and you will have greater, happier experiences with your friends and family because you no longer care about what other people around you think about you.

Friends & Family
You will be able to say “no” to things instead of saying “yes” and being a people pleaser, and saying yes just to make people happy because it is what they accept of you. Having more self-love will also make it easier for you to forgive people, so, instead of holding grudges, you forgive those who have hurt you because you don’t want to be upset by something that has happened in the past, even if the person doesn’t deserve the forgiveness, you forgive just so that you can have that inner-peace of mind, and it is not in the back of your mind.

Think about when you love someone, sometimes their happiness is more important than your own and you truly want them to be happy, so if you love yourself you truly want yourself to be happy, so you’d do anything to make sure you are happy. You do what’s best for YOU  because that is the thing that will truly make yourself feel happy.

Wednesday, 10 July 2019

50 Beauty Blog Post Ideas

1. How To Do Winged Eyeliner
2. Makeup Routine – Everyday
3. Favourite Beauty Brands
4. High End Drugstore Dupes
5. The Perfect Brows
6. Top 5 Drugstore Primers
7. Top 5 Drugstore Foundations
8. Top 5 Drugstore Concealers
9. Top 5 Drugstore Powders
10. Top 5 Drugstore Mascaras
11. Top 5 Drugstore Eyeliners
12. Top 5 Drugstore Eyebrow Products
13. Top 5 Drugstore Eyeshadow Palettes
14. Top 5 Drugstore Bronzers/Blushers
15. Top 5 Drugstore Contour/Highlighters
16. Top 5 Drugstore BB Creams
17. How To Get A Smokey Eye
18. Beauty Hacks
19. Cute Hairstyles
20. Winter Looks (Year)
21. Spring Looks (Year)
22. Summer Looks (Year)
23. Autumn Looks (Year)
24. Prom Makeup
25. Top 5 High End Primers
26. Top 5 High End Foundations
27. Top 5 High End Concealers
28. Top 5 High End Powders
29. Top 5 High End Mascaras
30. Top 5 High End Eyeliners
31. Top 5 High End Eyebrow Products
32. Top 5 High End Eyeshadow Palettes
33. Top 5 High End Bronzers/Blushers
34. Top 5 High End Contour/Highlighters
35. Top 5 High End BB Creams
36. Spring Eyeshadow Palettes
37. Summer Eyeshadow Palettes
38. Autumn/Winter Eyeshadow Palettes
39. Makeup Haul (Collective)
40. £25 Makeup Challenge
41. £75 Makeup Challenge
42. £50 Makeup Challenge  
43. £100 Makeup Challenge
44. MUA Makeup Haul
45. Collection Makeup Haul
46. Rimmel London Makeup Haul
47. Maybelline Makeup Haul
48. Miss Sporty Makeup Haul
49. Top MAC Lipsticks

50. Beauty Summer Essentials

Tuesday, 9 July 2019

7 Positive Tasks To Try This Week

focus; self-care
  • take a bath, do a skincare routine, listen to some relaxing music

focus; digital detox
  • take a day out from social media, have a no-screen-time night

focus; clean
  • tackle your junk draws
  • de-clutter and get rid of stuff you don't need
  • clean the draws you've been putting off doing

focus; purge
  • unsubscribe from any junk emails
  • use to complete the task

focus; donate
  • give away 5 things from your wardrobe you don't need anymore
  • donate to some of your clothes to charity

focus; health
  • make a healthy dinner from scratch

focus; energise
  • take a 20 minute walk, get some fresh air and reflex on the positives from your week


Monday, 8 July 2019

Favourite Harry Potter Quotes

“You're a wizard, Harry.”
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone

“But you know, happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.”
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban

“Ah, music," he said, wiping his eyes. "A magic beyond all we do here!”
– J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone

“I am what I am, an’ I’m not ashamed. 'Never be ashamed,’ my ol’ dad used ter say, ‘there’s some who’ll hold it against you, but they’re not worth botherin’ with.”
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

"Never trust anything that can think for itself if you can’t see where it keeps its brain."
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

“There are some things you can't share without ending up liking each other, and knocking out a twelve-foot mountain troll is one of them.”
– J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone

"It's wingardium leviOsa, not leviosAH."
– J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone

"There is no need to call me Sir, Professor.”
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

Sunday, 7 July 2019


God. I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that you’re never going to come through our front door again. You’re never going to tell us jokes or make us happy when we’re upset. You’re never going to see us grow up into the women you want us to be. It’s been 9 months already. I still can’t believe it. I don’t want to believe it. But I have too. Everyday is so hard without you here. I never really related to the grieving process in the beginning months. I just blocked it out. I thought I could. I turned to drink for my coping mechanism but everyone told me that wasn’t the way to go unless I wanted to end up dead too. I stopped drinking so much. I started to write. I wrote and wrote and wrote. Everyday. My thoughts, my feelings, my emotions, anything I would normally feel that the alcohol would block out. I don’t know how to feel normal at the moment. There’s things I want to do with my life. Places I want to go. People I want to be with but I don’t want to be sad. I don’t want everyone around me to know that I’m sad. So I keep it in. All in. But that, isn’t good. I am finding ways, more ways to cope with my grief without needing to stop people talking about it because it makes me upset. Grief is not easy. It’s not an easy thing to go through for anyone, at any age, no matter how long your love ones have been gone, it gets easier. I just know I’m not there yet and that’s okay. But I need to stop pushing people away that want to help me cos I’m gonna end up with no one left if I keep doing that. I miss him so much but nothing I say or do is going to bring him back. I just have to take each day as it comes. If it’s a happy day then great, if it’s a sad day then that’s okay, if I have more sad days than happy days, that also is okay. The point is I’m alive. I’m healthy and I’m breathing. A lot of people in this world don’t get that privilege so I’m going to live and make the most of the time I have left.

Saturday, 6 July 2019

Pressures Around Sex and Virginity

I think in todays society, it is important to acknowledge all these pressures around being a certain way or having your sh*t together at a certain age, everyone is expected to be perfect when in reality no one is perfect, everyone has got their flaws. When it comes to sex and virginity, no one likes to be the last in their friendship group to “do the deed” if you will, but one of you is going to have to be, and that’s okay. There’s so much pressure around it that you feel like you don’t want to do it. There are some people who do want to wait and of course, that’s okay, and of course, vise versa, some people don’t want to wait and just get on with it and out the way.

No one should feel like they have to do this or that just to fit in and it’s not even seemed as “cool” to wait. Personally for me, I wish I had waited, when I lost my virginity, I didn’t regret it as such because I was feeling nervous about it, but I just wished I waited for the right person to come along, the guy who it was, I didn’t know at all and I think it lost it’s meaning of that first time is meant to be with someone that you trust, and I didn’t trust this person (not to mention the fact that he lied about sleeping with me and said he didn’t when he clearly did).

I think, if you want to wait, then you should wait, if you don’t then go for it, either way, don’t feel like you HAVE to just because everyone else is, which of course you don’t. do what you feel is right whenever you feel it’s right. There are some people who don’t believe in sex before marriage because of that thing of accidental pregnancies and not having a strong relationship with their other half (example if it was just a one-night stand).

But all-in-all you have to do what is right for you, if you don’t want to just yet, you don’t have too, if you can, then go for it.

Friday, 5 July 2019

10 Ways To Simplify Your Life

1. declutter
I myself, have definitely felt guilty of having too much mess and crap about. By reducing the amount of clutter we have in our houses we open ourselves to numerous benefits and hey, you might find things around your house you didn't even know existed because of the amount of excess junk you have around.

2. stop comparing yourself with others
With social media being at everyones fingertips, it's very hard to stop comparing yourself to others that you see online, for example if you have a relationship and you stumble upon a pretty girl on instagram, you might think and compare yourself to that girl, but that isn't a good thing to do, love yourself and be happy within yourself.

3. don't be afraid to say "no"
You don't have to say yes to everything, you should never feel pressured to do so, learn to stand your ground and say no to situations and things you don't want to do.

4. don't overplan
Sometimes a bit of spontaneity is good. It gives you a breath of fresh-air and you may end up having one of the best days of your entire life! Just trust it, you might enjoy it!

5. get inspired
Find something that you're passionate about, something that you love and get inspired by others that have the same hobbies and interests as you!

6. always carry a notebook or journal
Several reasons for this, one of them being you never know when you're going to find inspirations for a hobby or interest, another reason is if you have a shopping list you can cross of things as you buy them.

7. prepare your to-do list in the morning
If you know what you have to do during the day every-day you won't spend the most part of it wondering what you have to do during the day, it would also keep you motivated and busy during the day.

8. remove and minimise toxic relationships
Toxic relationships - whether they be friendships or lovers can be pretty toxic the sooner you realise some of the relationships you have are toxic, the better.

9. find the joy in small things
I think, it is easy to find every single reason to be sad and upset about a situation,but every cloud has a silver lining, so there can be a positive outlook to everything.

10. spend less time on social media
Everyone needs and deserves a break off social media now and again, just to refresh your mind and give it a break from some of the negativity that you might come across. A social media break is what everyone needs once in a while, it will you do you the whole world of good.


Thursday, 4 July 2019

What Makes Me Happy Right Now

1. My friends
2. My family
3. Listening to music
4. Blogging & writing
5. Photography
6. Netflix
7. Having money
8. Sleep
9. Ed Sheeran

Wednesday, 3 July 2019

25 Disney Movies To Watch

If you know me, you'll know I LOVE Disney movies, and at one point I was even going to make a blog about Disney but never got round to it. This list is a list of Disney movies that I love and have watched but suggestions of ones that you could watch!
  1. Snow White & The Seven Dwafts
  2. Bedtime Stories
  3. The Incredibles
  4. Bambi
  5. Parent Trap
  6. Cinderella
  7. Mary Poppins
  8. Dumbo
  9. Sleeping Beauty
  10. Frozen
  11. Winnie The Pooh
  12. Monsters Inc
  13. Monsters University
  14. Toy Story 1,2,3
  15. The Tigger Movie
  16. Alice In Wonderland
  17. Bolt
  18. Up
  19. Finding Nemo
  20. Cars
  21. Meet The Robinsons
  22. High School Musical 1,2,3
  23. Hannah Montana The Movie
  24. Zootopia
  25. Moana

Tuesday, 2 July 2019

Things You CAN Control

Although there are a-lot of things in life that you can't control, however, there are things you CAN control. Here is my list;
  1. your beliefs
  2. your attitude
  3. your thoughts
  4. your opinions
  5. your perspective
  6. who your friends are
  7. what books you read
  8. the type of food you eat
  9. how you spend/invest your money
  10. whether or not you judge peoplef

Monday, 1 July 2019


Wow I am so sorry I didn’t post in June. I just had a hectic month! I applied for jobs left, right and centre and also applied for a traineeship and got a space on that course. As far as it goes, I’m doing good, really good. I feel like I am finally getting my life back on track and it’s the best feeling in the world. I stopped using alcohol as a coping mechanism and instead talk to my friends whenever I feel sad. I have a really nice guy who I can always talk too as well and he makes me feel happy and that when I’m sad that it’s okay to feel like I am feeling. I will try to keep you updated more this month, and sorry again for not posting last month and half of May, just been hectic.

Relationships...they suck lol

Falling in love is by far one of the best feelings in the world, there is nothing better than listening to your favourite song on repeat because it reminds you so much of the person that you’re in love with, now I have only been in 3 relationships that I can actually count but they weren’t exactly your walk on cloud 9 type of relationships, and those reasons and the reasons why they broke down is the reason why RELATIONSHIPS SUCK SOMETIMES.

I am not saying they suck all of the time, of course they don’t but I just think you have to spend the time with the right person to realise that you were in the wrong relationship. There have been times where I’ve spoken to a guy, he’s been so lovely and like one of the lovely-ist (not even sure that’s even a word lol) guy I’ve spoken too but something didn’t feel right and it felt like it was wrong to keep speaking to him and leading him on, even if my friends thought we would be the best couple in the universe even though that isn’t strictly true because my feelings towards this guy, didn’t swing fully towards that way, it was hard because he was so nice, I just didn’t think it would have worked out in the long run and especially with relationships you need to think about what’s best for you and not other people and just because it would please them.

I have always been a difficult person when it comes to love and relationships, I find it really hard to trust someone, sometimes it can even take months and months for me to fully trust them and of course, that is not their fault, they might be the most trust-worthy person on the planet, but I am not one to just throw my trust at anyone, I think most people are like that anyways. They just need to be aware that I have trust issues.

It’s not even that I find it difficult to form long-lasting relationships with people, they just won’t want to commit to me, they cheat on me or they just find someone better or they just stop speaking to me. THAT IS WHY RELATIONSHIPS AND THE CONCEPT OF MODERN DATING SUCKS.

Everyone everywhere is on social media, everyone can be compared by anyone, your boyfriend can compare your ex-boyfriend to him and not find any reasons to why they would pick you over him, and that’s quite sad really.

 If everyone is influenced over other people on social media you will always want to find a way to compare yourself to other girls/boys and not see why this person likes you or find you attractive. It’s because you’re you and you don’t have to be someone that you’re not just to impress someone, you might actually impress them for all the wrong reasons and being yourself might actually be a better way to go about it, if they like you then they’ll like you for the person that you are and no other reasons.

Relationships are a hard concept for me, I am scared of being lonely for the rest of my life but the idea of a long-term committed relationship makes me absolutely terrified but mostly only because coming out of my 2 ½ year relationship I wasn’t in the best state of mind, I came out of that relationship and thought my whole life had ended because I no longer had someone I could call mine, even though it was for the best, I still thought nothing could convince me otherwise.

I was with someone a while ago (just over 2 year now) and he was the worst type of person ever imaginable, I do question why I was actually so into him at the time, he would only want me to come round on his terms, so when if I missed him that wouldn’t matter because it wasn’t on his terms and it didn’t suit him, well to be hell with THAT! I am not being treated like that! Only wanted me for the intimate stuff too so really we were only ever “friends with benefits” and I didn’t even realise that until my friends were saying about it and pointing out the facts. It hurt me because I really did like him and he just didn’t care about that. I still find it hard to get my head around someone using someone else to their advantage like that, and he even knew that I liked him, even in the way that he didn’t, I knew that he didn’t but that didn’t stop me, I got too sucked in. During that relationship I had a bit of a traumatic experience with a pregnancy scare, all I wanted was him to be there for me and support me if I was to have a child, if it came out positive, as soon as he heard that I thought I was pregnant he deleted me off social media and deleted most of my friends so they couldn’t contact him either, it was all just a mess, it came out negative, but that’s not the point, I wanted him to be there I was scared enough as it is but to have someone just not care like that, it’s awful.

Here I am in 2019 living my best life, I still am trying to find someone though I think I might have but I won’t say anything because it’s still early days. I really would like something to work out for me this year, I am absolutely SICK of wasting my time on people who don’t want relationships but still insist on talking to me like they do anyway, I want someone to care and I want to care about someone just as much!

The long and the short of it is, to enjoy being in a relationship and to be happy in that relationship you have to think about the long-term and if it is going to make you a happy(ier) person or if you’re just being in a relationship because you want to belong to someone, relationships suck YES but only if you’re with the wrong person. Otherwise they can be the best thing in the entire world, without a doubt.


A-Z Disney Movies

A A Bugs Life, Aladdin, Alice In Wonderland

B Bambi, Bedtime Stories, Bolt, Beauty & The Beast

C Cars, Chicken Little, Cinderella

D Dumbo

E Enchanted

F Freaky Friday, Flubber

G Gnomeo & Juliet

H Hercules, High School Musical

I Ice Princess

J James & The Giant Peach

L Lilo & Stitch

M Mary Popins

P Peter Pan, Pete's Dragon

R Ratatouille

S Sleeping Beauty, Snow White & The Seven Dwafts

T Tarzan, Tangled, The Lion King

U Up

V Valliant

W Wall-e
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